My husband and I are big fitness dating advocates. But the couple that trains together stays together right? Of course, it’s not quite that simple. But in my defence it can’t hurt, can it? I haven’t always been open to taking on a training partner, especially my actual partner. It hasn’t always worked out in the past. But the truth is, finding the right training buddy can be difficult.
Make Sure you Share Similar Training Approaches
- If the person you want to train with or try your hand at fitness dating with is an endurance athlete and you’re a sprinter, it may be a great idea to do some cross training with them, but they’re unlikely to be your go-to gym buddy.
- If your fitness levels are at opposite ends of the scale, you may not be suited. If you’re helping a friend get fit, that’s great. If someone’s helping you get fit, that’s also amazing. But make sure you set clear goals and expectations so you’re both getting a benefit.
- Start out slowly. If you’re training with a friendly competitor it can be a great motivator for reaching your goals faster. It can also open up a fast track to injury. If you’re focusing more on throwing bigger weights around as a method of posturing and you’ve stopped paying attention to your form, ask yourself what benefits you’re really getting. You’re spotting each other, not trying to kill each other.
- Try to challenge each other positively. Many of us have different athletic/sporting backgrounds. Use that! An ex-gymnast may have some great and fun tips on becoming more flexible in your yoga practice. An ex-swimmer may be able to help you get in shape for the triathlon you’ve always wanted to do. The best thing about learning with someone different is they are guaranteed to know more about an activity than you do. There’s always scope to learn and there’s plenty of fun to be had while learning.
- If you’re training with your actual partner, try to keep it fun. There’s nothing worse than finding yourself competing with your girlfriend or boyfriend and then having to work through it afterwards, at home. Encourage each other and don’t ever negatively criticise. It can become an incredible training match if you get the balance right.
One thing I always do with The Hubby when we’re away, is to train. It’s not always regimented but rather a fun way to explore and spend time together; fitness dating. We might go on a long walk, pick out a breakfast spot and run there or watch what the locals do and give it a try. We recently hired bikes in Nice, rode along the coast for a couple of hours, found our way back, stopping at cafes and bars along the way and just enjoyed the ride. It was a fun way to see the area and a relaxed fit date.
So next time you see a couple giving each other the “good jobs” and bum taps in the gym, don’t get jealous, get your own training partner.
Skye is the founder and editor-in-chief of The Fit Traveller. She is a journalist, writer, photographer, intrepid traveller and a former personal trainer with a passion for helping others reach optimal health. As a TV journalist and producer, Skye has worked for household names such as 60 Minutes, Sunrise, TODAY and Nine News. She has also written for Women’s Health, Fodor’s Travel and Yahoo7 Travel, among many others.
Skye created The Fit Traveller as a beautiful online space and community where people feel inspired to escape the desk to move and explore more.
Equally comfortable in a 5-star resort or hiking a far-off mountain, Skye loves the unexpected and enriching life experiences that each trip brings and can often be found in a backstreet chatting to locals with her camera in hand.
Skye is based in Sydney, working to master the balance between motherhood and her insatiable appetite for adventure.